So today started out like any other Monday got up went to work except it is different. One of my leadership at work Attempted suicide. He cut his arms and neck really good. He was rushed to hospital when he was found he had lost a lot of blood. they got him in surgery they thought he got his artery in his neck. luckily he did not. He was combative when they brought him in so they had to sedate him. In surgery they found he did not get his neck that bad but they were worried about blood clots so they placed a stint in him. When he woke up he could not feel his left side. he had a stroke from all the blood loss. I just started with this command so i barley knew the guy but for what i do know.
He was and is a wealth of knowledge. he is a bit abrasive when he talks to you he is still a good guy. He means well. Does the right thing for the right reasons. He was struggling with how his wife makes him feel. I don't know her side of things honestly does not matter. They were having issues with how they were treating each other probably a mess of other issues.
If you are having deep seeded issues with your significant other you need to seriously sit down and talk about them or get help working through them with someone that can give you perspective and direction or just help you organize your thoughts. the last thing you need is bad advice like you need to lay the pimp hand down or what ever the terrible Phrase is. I know that was a mix of several. They are all terrible advice.
You can get away from your sig. other if things are that bad Temporarily that is. If your getting into a bad place you need to let your sig other know. If you are doing things that are damaging your relationship well talk about them. Get help to stop the behavior or try to ask the other to change there perspective on the behavior. If you are to hard on your sig other for perceived Damage to you go easier on them. Give them some room to breath and do wrong Relax a little. Give them some respect.
This guy will never be the same. He will have issues the rest of his life due to his choice in the darkest part of his life.
Monday, November 30, 2015
Sunday, November 29, 2015
Formal Introduction not many details.
I will not reveal my true name at this time as this is more fun.
Let’s see here I started life out in Southern California born to my mom we will name her Brita who had a boy before and after me. So I am a middle child. My mom was deemed by the state to not be able to adequately care for me and my younger brother. The state awarded us to our step grandmother we will name her Greta. My bro was taken first at 18 months then me at age 3. We are 13 months apart in age. Let’s call my younger brother Crick and my older Arthur. It was Arthur, 18 months later, me, 13 months later, Crick. Great start to life huh I mean I am whole and not much to complain about could be much worse I suppose.
I was a very active child getting into the normal kinds of trouble I suppose. Normal relationship with younger brother barley know my older. Broke my arm playing on roller skates inside. We Crick and I got adopted by Greta about age 12. Big court hearing and everything our parents did not want to give up parental rights even though we did not see them but once a year. Got to spend a lot of time with older bro which was great. Greta at that time we were put in her care had 2 children left in the house. They were much older than us. Like 8 years older. They were my maternal grandfather’s kids with Greta. She was raising us on her own.[childhood blog]
I finished high school and sat around for too long doing nothing around the September 11th 2001 time frame. Got to watch that on the news. I decided to be an aviation mechanic. So I went to school for that. Graduated and moved out of the house, I moved in with Arthur who had been in the Navy for a while at this point in our lives. I tried to find a job, which was not going so well. The school I graduated from wanted me to come back and work for them for a while as an instructor’s assistant. I did that for like 6 months. Then found a job. Got out on my own for a while then moved in with Greta again. Fun!!! Rolling my eyes. Did that for a while then found a girl to um be in love with moved in with her Family to Tenn. Like a month into this had an ok relationship then thrown to the side, so I was stuck where I was for a while being a room mate without the Love aspect Kind of a bad choice from the start. That did not work out so well did not have a real job. I Got by loading trucks for UPS moved out of that place after like 5 months of hell. Back to Arthur’s place 2 years after first time. This time he is married to who he is married to now at the writing of this page. I got by loading trucks again. I was signed up to join military namely the NAVY in august 06 I signed up and entered into the delayed entry program DEP.
March 2007 off to boot camp. It was great times I got very sick there that kind of sucked the life out of me. I managed to get through it by seer willpower and grit. It took me 2 weeks after boot camp to get well. Went to training for my rate lets nuclear machinist mate. Went to school for like 1 year to learn my job. Then 6 months to prototype where we learn how to operate the steam plant and support systems for the reactor.
I went to a carrier for like 7 years now I am on shore duty carrying our maintenance on one of the prototype sites the navy has, due to do that for a while.
In 2008 I got married to let’s call her Two (short for Two timing grrrr) things went ok for a while then kind of fell apart not really sure they were ever together in first place. A couple of deployments and a couple of her boyfriends later, in the end of 2012 started divorce papers [marriage and divorce name of a follow up blog].
The cheating grrrr. Two and I had good times and bad time but I thought we had started to put things together.
Now onto the up and up.
Divorced Two and got over the hurt and the loss. Then decided it was time to move on. So there was not a lot of LDS woman my age around Norfolk VA. I tried my hand at the online dating scene. So I was on there for like 6 months no results except a great group of people to chat with in a chat room every night. For hours and hours. One day I was like what am I doing with my life I was ready to quit I gave it a date I was going to not renew. So one day this new girl gets on I am instantly drawn to her. This is her first time on the chat room she just noticed it. So I was my normal fun self-make the new people feel welcome. Long story short I marry her. [Meeting my love new blog name for more detail]
We shall call her Sue short for Surprise. Well she has 4 kids she was divorced about same time I was. And we decided to get married after 6 months of seeing each other (crazy Idea Right!!!) she was living in CO at this time. The children do not have permission to be moved out of state so we had to wait that court hearing to happen He was fighting this the whole time. Sue's Ex finally gave in and gave permission. So 7 months into our marriage move the kids and Sue in with me near Norfolk VA. Small house purchased when with Two, somehow kept that. Two left without a fight and left the Dept to me. Anyway 3 bedroom 1200 sq. ft. house is small with 2 teens a pre-teen and a young 8 year old.
I came up for new orders in September 2015 and had to move again. [moving] We got on a waiting list for Government housing up here in New England area. We were last in a list of 4 or 5. No way we would have it in time so we had to come up with a plan we found a house to rent for way more than we could afford at the time.
So here we are today. Sue and I and 4 kids. They will get named someplace else.
Let’s see here I started life out in Southern California born to my mom we will name her Brita who had a boy before and after me. So I am a middle child. My mom was deemed by the state to not be able to adequately care for me and my younger brother. The state awarded us to our step grandmother we will name her Greta. My bro was taken first at 18 months then me at age 3. We are 13 months apart in age. Let’s call my younger brother Crick and my older Arthur. It was Arthur, 18 months later, me, 13 months later, Crick. Great start to life huh I mean I am whole and not much to complain about could be much worse I suppose.
I was a very active child getting into the normal kinds of trouble I suppose. Normal relationship with younger brother barley know my older. Broke my arm playing on roller skates inside. We Crick and I got adopted by Greta about age 12. Big court hearing and everything our parents did not want to give up parental rights even though we did not see them but once a year. Got to spend a lot of time with older bro which was great. Greta at that time we were put in her care had 2 children left in the house. They were much older than us. Like 8 years older. They were my maternal grandfather’s kids with Greta. She was raising us on her own.[childhood blog]
I finished high school and sat around for too long doing nothing around the September 11th 2001 time frame. Got to watch that on the news. I decided to be an aviation mechanic. So I went to school for that. Graduated and moved out of the house, I moved in with Arthur who had been in the Navy for a while at this point in our lives. I tried to find a job, which was not going so well. The school I graduated from wanted me to come back and work for them for a while as an instructor’s assistant. I did that for like 6 months. Then found a job. Got out on my own for a while then moved in with Greta again. Fun!!! Rolling my eyes. Did that for a while then found a girl to um be in love with moved in with her Family to Tenn. Like a month into this had an ok relationship then thrown to the side, so I was stuck where I was for a while being a room mate without the Love aspect Kind of a bad choice from the start. That did not work out so well did not have a real job. I Got by loading trucks for UPS moved out of that place after like 5 months of hell. Back to Arthur’s place 2 years after first time. This time he is married to who he is married to now at the writing of this page. I got by loading trucks again. I was signed up to join military namely the NAVY in august 06 I signed up and entered into the delayed entry program DEP.
March 2007 off to boot camp. It was great times I got very sick there that kind of sucked the life out of me. I managed to get through it by seer willpower and grit. It took me 2 weeks after boot camp to get well. Went to training for my rate lets nuclear machinist mate. Went to school for like 1 year to learn my job. Then 6 months to prototype where we learn how to operate the steam plant and support systems for the reactor.
I went to a carrier for like 7 years now I am on shore duty carrying our maintenance on one of the prototype sites the navy has, due to do that for a while.
In 2008 I got married to let’s call her Two (short for Two timing grrrr) things went ok for a while then kind of fell apart not really sure they were ever together in first place. A couple of deployments and a couple of her boyfriends later, in the end of 2012 started divorce papers [marriage and divorce name of a follow up blog].
The cheating grrrr. Two and I had good times and bad time but I thought we had started to put things together.
Now onto the up and up.
Divorced Two and got over the hurt and the loss. Then decided it was time to move on. So there was not a lot of LDS woman my age around Norfolk VA. I tried my hand at the online dating scene. So I was on there for like 6 months no results except a great group of people to chat with in a chat room every night. For hours and hours. One day I was like what am I doing with my life I was ready to quit I gave it a date I was going to not renew. So one day this new girl gets on I am instantly drawn to her. This is her first time on the chat room she just noticed it. So I was my normal fun self-make the new people feel welcome. Long story short I marry her. [Meeting my love new blog name for more detail]
We shall call her Sue short for Surprise. Well she has 4 kids she was divorced about same time I was. And we decided to get married after 6 months of seeing each other (crazy Idea Right!!!) she was living in CO at this time. The children do not have permission to be moved out of state so we had to wait that court hearing to happen He was fighting this the whole time. Sue's Ex finally gave in and gave permission. So 7 months into our marriage move the kids and Sue in with me near Norfolk VA. Small house purchased when with Two, somehow kept that. Two left without a fight and left the Dept to me. Anyway 3 bedroom 1200 sq. ft. house is small with 2 teens a pre-teen and a young 8 year old.
I came up for new orders in September 2015 and had to move again. [moving] We got on a waiting list for Government housing up here in New England area. We were last in a list of 4 or 5. No way we would have it in time so we had to come up with a plan we found a house to rent for way more than we could afford at the time.
So here we are today. Sue and I and 4 kids. They will get named someplace else.
My first post which should be my introduction, and is not
My first post which should be my introduction.
Let me start with a disclaimers of sorts:
My opinions, when shared, are just that my opinions they are not that of the military or my family members unless I inform the reader they are, and even then they are my interpretation of them. If you want facts I encourage doing research.
Some of the things I will randomly discuss are in relation to my research for classes I might be in or curiosity I have. If this is the case I will provide the reference where I got it from. Some of these I’ll leave open to comment, to see what you think (when I have people to comment). I will tell you if I am phrasing something in a way to make you think. I will answer my own Questions or Sarcastic points. Yes I will be a little absurd for the sake of making a point.
I am Religious, A member of The Church of Jesus Christ Later Day Saint or known also by Mormon. I will NOT go heavy on scripture thumping but my standards and morals are set in the teachings of Christ and what is found in the scriptures to include New Testament, Old Testament, Book of Mormon and other standard works of our Religion. I will talk how I understand our stance on some subjects as well as logical reasoning. My immediate intentions are not to convert anyone but to inform so you can understand. I will not get into heated arguments bible bashing or tearing down anyone's religion, I will talk about religious topics, although I will talk frankly with the understanding of all faith's backgrounds. As an LDS member we are taught the basics of religion all religion. We do not have all the ins and outs but the basic ideas. I respect religions freedom, regardless of my personal feelings to what they teach. My intention of ever talking about others religion is to present a basic knowledge base for all of us to work from. That took up more room than I thought it should but it needs it. Religion is a big sticking/raw topic leading to quick defenses for a lot of people.
I will talk about everyday boring stuff too in hopefully entertaining ways. I will gloss over work stuff due to well some of it not able to talk about. I will spend a lot of time in the home life and fun in becoming and insta-dad. (Instant dad) married life the complicated life of this seemingly crazy way of living.
If I am off on facts I welcome Informative Correction not bashing.
I welcome honest, respectful comments in ways that are helpful to others and me.
I do welcome clarifying questions.
I do not mean to take anything out of context.
I will not get into heated arguments I will or might disagree with someone but I intend on keeping it civil. I will delete/Edit anything that is not civil or kept PG/ PG-13
There will be no real names used in here so if the story is about you, well great don't give yourself up.
In the future I hope my wife writes a blog parallel to mine which will be an interesting read side by side with mine.
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